Judge Judy says, "When I was young, you either left your parents' house in a white dress or a pine box." But times have changed. Today couples are more inclined to test the waters before tying the knot.

In What Would Judy Say? A Grown-Up Guide to Living Together (with Benefits), Judge Judy Sheindlin enters a lively dialogue with readers from her popular Web site, www.whatwouldjudysay.com, to explore, with humor and savvy the pitfalls and possibilities of sharing a life together before marriage.

Judy's wisdom, based on a lifetime of experience, both in and out of court, covers the territory. In her inimitable way she offers reality checks: "Men are warriors, and warriors don't clean up after themselves." She cautions against blind love: "Frogs don't become princes." About mingling money and property, she warns: "No joint before the ring." She advises that couples entering live-in relationships protect themselves because there is no court of People Just Living Together.

Rich with stories of real men and women who share their travels in the land of love and commitment, this is a heartwarming, funny and smart guide, to help people negotiate and really enjoy what is supposed to be this wonderful journey of life.